How 'Bout Now?

Staying in the present moment can be tricky when we have multiple things to juggle on a daily basis, the future glaring at us to stay on track, and the past to color our perspective. Oftentimes, it feels like life is coming at us from every angle, making it a little difficult to pay attention to what’s currently going on around us. Add to this our critical internal navigation system (aka, our inner-nag) always at the ready to keep us from looking bad or re-creating past mistakes, and it’s a wonder we get out of bed in the morning.

But when you allow things to slow down and turn off (or at least calm) that internal voice, have you noticed how much more enjoyable life and relationships are? Pretty amazing, actually. Setting aside the often ever growing to-do list, and letting go of the need to constantly keep yourself in check allows you to truly experience each precious moment of life. Now believe you me, I know how hard it can be to quiet the inner noise. It’s there, but you can make peace with it.

I’m a big proponent of talking to yourself, and wonder what kind of lunatic I must look like for doing it so often. The truth of the matter is that the voice that attempts to guide us – no matter how misdirected – just really want to be heard. So the trick is, listen. Have a conversation. By doing so, you quiet the voice.

When working with clients I often refer to this as “talking yourself off the ledge”, especially when the voice is screaming at you to jump. For every internal screaming Mimi, there’s also the internal voice of reason, and it’s up to us to use both as a source for moving through and out of our past, and to plan for the future without obsessing over it.

A good analogy for this is that you wouldn’t pitch a screaming fit back at a small child for throwing a temper tantrum, would you? That would be pretty counterproductive. As anyone who’s had the joy of dealing firsthand with a little darling when they go off the deep end knows, staying calm and rational enough to see the root of the behavior is paramount for the fit to pass.

Time to start listening to the inner-voice so it stops tearing us down, and instead, cheers us on. That way you have the opportunity to enjoy the moment, be present with those you love, and not “trip” on the ever existent to-do list.

With Love.

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From Over There:

“To find value in every interaction, no matter how seemingly mundane, is to live in present moment. To live in present moment and experience the present moment one must release the need for approval of others.

Approval must first begin with self. The mind is out of present time and into self-preoccupation when an individual feels the need to compare attributes with another. If one values their own strengths and talents then there is no need for competition, or ego to prove value over another, because self-value is already acknowledged.

When one is comfortable in relationship with self, then one is comfortable in relationship with others. When one is in this comfort range, then the availability to be present in every moment is increased.” 

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