Once
again, this week’s message comes from a question I was asked by a colleague. It
concerns the topic of letting go and why it’s sometimes so hard for us to do
just that. Have you ever had an issue with letting go of a situation,
relationship or job that you knew no longer served you? Yep, we all have. Sometimes
we get so attached that the act of letting go practically feels like death. But
just like the Phoenix rising, there can be renewal at the end of a pile of
ashes.
At
the base of our inability to let go is – you guessed it – fear. This fear comes
from making a wrong a decision or missing an opportunity. But the truth is that
like it or not things are continually changing all around us anyway. We just
latch on to the idea that we can hold on to something or someone. Even if a job
or relationship or other situation lasts over the span of years, all you have
to do is think back and you’ll see that it’s not the same as it was in the
beginning. The only thing we hold on to is the fear of our failure. And we all
know how great that serves us.
As
this week’s message tells us, if we stay present with ourselves and those
around us then there really isn’t such a thing as a bad decision. Sometimes
when we look back on a deviation from a path we can see the useful lessons that
bring us to something even better than what we originally had planned. And at
the very least we’re hopefully a bit wiser.
So
just pay attention to what’s going on around you and go forth – onward and
upward!
With
Love.
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From Over There: 1.25.15 Weekly
Focus
Q: Why do we sometimes have a
fear of letting go?
Is it a lack of trust in
oneself. It is to mistrust one’s ability to know the best course of action for
the self. Understand that if one commits to conscious awareness then the course
of action will never be futile, as through this awareness lessons will be
learned. In remaining consciously aware there is no need to fear a change of
action or mindset. In a state of awareness this can only lead to growth,
whatever the outcome.
Q: How can we keep ourselves in
a state of conscious awareness?
It is through the act of
staying present. It is to notice what is happening in the moment. It is to
avoid distracting and numbing mind through denial. This is to pay attention to
your words and actions and of those around you. It is to take responsibility for
the impact your words, actions and thoughts have on you and those around you.
In doing so you gain greater perspective of the words and actions of others and
do not take them personally, understanding that they respond out of their own
beliefs and fears. This is practicing the act of presence, and it leads to
greater growth for the individual who chooses this practice.
