March 8, 2015

How About a Nice Picket Fence?

I've been having a lot of conversations with people lately - including myself - about the importance of keeping proper boundaries. It's so easy to get caught up in the "yes", "yes", "yes" cycle until you find yourself completely exhausted and not feeling supported in your relationships (I'm talking about both personal and work related here). At the end of it all, so this week's message states, is our own personal responsibility for creating boundaries that work for us.

I always like to think of boundaries as tangible, like fences. This makes them feel more substantial and empowering. You can either just intend for them to be there, or if you need a little extra reassurance try to visualize them, especially prior to dealing with particularly difficult people or situations. That way, you can "create" different types of boundaries for whatever you feel the need fits. So whether you're using a tall brick wall, a sweet little picket fence, or a force field strong enough to keep out Darth Vader and Voldemort combined, make it your own and have fun with it. And don't be guilted into tearing it down when it's in your best interest to keep it firmly in place.

Wishing you a wonderful week from the other side of my flower-entwined picket fence...

With Love.


From Over There: 3.8.15 Weekly Focus
It is important for each of you to understand the need for installing boundaries that help build happiness for the self. This is not a selfish act, but rather a mechanism for creating healthy relationships and a supported life.

When boundaries of time, commitment or interpersonal interaction are not installed in a way that supports the individual, then there becomes the greater potential for dissatisfaction in one's life and relationships. These boundaries are different for each individual and it is up to the individual to decide what is appropriate and in their best interest.

To hold these boundaries with regard to your greater happiness creates stronger, more joyful relationships. Those who attempt to manipulate the position of another's boundaries will find it necessary to realign their behavior with the boundary - only if the receiving individual remains firm with their boundary. It is the responsibility of  each and every one of you to hold yourselves in high enough regard so as to keep your boundaries intact, even when challenged.

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