Have you ever assumed something about someone, just to
find that you were totally off base? Or in reverse, had assumptions made about
you? We all have moments where we don’t verbalize something, whether we’re
feeling intimidated or have preconceived judgments about someone that keeps us
from wanting to communicate. It reminds me of an experience I had some years
back when I got in a sledding accident and did a major face plant into a rock buried
under the snow. The outcome was a very bruised and swollen face that had me
looking like I had just gotten out of the ring with the heavyweight champion of
the world. Not exactly a pretty look, but thankfully not permanent damage.
At the time I worked in an office and had a position
where I would travel a little here and there for meetings and whatnot, and a
few days after the accident had me flying to Los Angeles by myself for one such
event. I did my very best to cover the bruising, but there wasn’t much that
could be done about the swelling so I went ahead, donned my most
professional attire and held my head high while attempting to act like nothing
was wrong. Wow, what an experience!
The way I was treated astounded me. People constantly
stared at me then quickly looked away when they noticed that I had caught them,
and all the while I could feel the assumptions as to how I got in that
condition. No one took the time to ask if I was ok or needed help, just
nervously stared. It was a huge eye-opener (not so easy through the swelling) for
me on how we all make assumptions based on what we’ve experienced, and how that
affects our ability and inability to reach out to one another. Since then, I’ve
done my best to check myself when sizing someone up before knowing their full
story. Sometimes the simplest remedy when you’re unsure of another’s situation
is to ask. It definitely would have made things easier for me that day.
Here’s to keeping the lenses upon which we view the world
as clean as possible and our ability to connect with one another sparkly clear!
With Love.
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From Over There:
“Perception of
another takes places through each individual’s unique lens. No two individuals
view reality in the same way. Some will be more aligned with one another, some
will have views that are in opposition of one another. Personal perception occurs from experiences
and how one relates to them. Even within the same familial structure there will
be variant types awareness, given each member’s personality and role within the
group.
It is to understand
another that one needs to decipher whether opinion comes from present circumstance
or lens of previous experience. It is in doing so that those with variant
points of view can build harmonious relationship and peaceful interactions.”
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Featured Guest:
Bob Marley
Here’s an upbeat little song from Mr. Marley to help
raise our Positive Vibration.
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