I've
been having a lot of conversations with people lately - including myself -
about the importance of keeping proper boundaries. It's so easy to get caught
up in the "yes", "yes", "yes" cycle until you
find yourself completely exhausted and not feeling supported in your
relationships (I'm talking about both personal and work related here). At the
end of it all, so this week's message states, is our own personal responsibility
for creating boundaries that work for us.
I
always like to think of boundaries as tangible, like fences. This makes them feel
more substantial and empowering. You can either just intend for them to be
there, or if you need a little extra reassurance try to visualize them,
especially prior to dealing with particularly difficult people or situations. That
way, you can "create" different types of boundaries for whatever you
feel the need fits. So whether you're using a tall brick wall, a sweet little
picket fence, or a force field strong enough to keep out Darth Vader and
Voldemort combined, make it your own and
have fun with it. And don't be guilted into tearing it down when it's in your
best interest to keep it firmly in place.
Wishing
you a wonderful week from the other side of my flower-entwined picket fence...
With
Love.
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From Over There: 3.8.15 Weekly
Focus
It is important for each of you
to understand the need for installing boundaries that help build happiness for
the self. This is not a selfish act, but rather a mechanism for creating
healthy relationships and a supported life.
When boundaries of time, commitment
or interpersonal interaction are not installed in a way that supports the
individual, then there becomes the greater potential for dissatisfaction in
one's life and relationships. These boundaries are different for each
individual and it is up to the individual to decide what is appropriate and in
their best interest.
To hold these boundaries with
regard to your greater happiness creates stronger, more joyful relationships.
Those who attempt to manipulate the position of another's boundaries will find
it necessary to realign their behavior with the boundary - only if the
receiving individual remains firm with their boundary. It is the responsibility
of each and every one of you to hold
yourselves in high enough regard so as to keep your boundaries intact, even
when challenged.
