Individually Wrapped

This week’s message came to me as I was getting ready to head out for a fun-filled weekend to celebrate the 50^th birthday of a good friend. At the time I really didn’t think it would have much to do with the weekend, but now as I sit, relaxed, post-fun at home I can see that yes, it does indeed have some significance.

About seven of us women converged on the home of one member of the group who happens to live in the lovely little town of Soquel, right on the outskirts of Santa Cruz. On top of being in the midst of a cool group of ladies, the weather gods shone brightly upon us. It was a great weekend, all around. We got along wonderfully, in spite of our varied personalities, backgrounds and life circumstance, which leads to this week’s message, what does it mean to be an individual while we’re all interconnected?

As the message below states, recognizing ourselves as being part of one big cosmic soup is important in that doing so we have a deeper understanding of our impact on others. Though this doesn’t mean that you have to forgo your individuality in order to “be one” with those around you. In fact, individuality is what keeps us moving ahead on the evolutionary wheel. Think of it this way, if a multitude of individuals hadn’t made the decision to step outside the status quo (think Einstein, Gloria Steinem, Steve Jobs …), where would we be?

Yes, it’s important to understand our energetic connection, but let’s not forget the amazing gifts, talents and insights that we each –individually – bring to the table. This is the color that makes our big, beautiful world interesting.

With Love.

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From Over There:

“Do not get trapped inside the lives of others. Love them, but allow them to live as best serves them. This means allowing them to experience the lessons that life presents to them. This means supporting them, without an attempt to control their actions. Each individual has a divine path that is unique to them.

Your interconnectedness is represented in the effect that your actions have on one another, not in the mimicry of another. Comparison to another takes away from the validity of one’s personal gifts and attributes. These attributes are what weave the rich texture of humanity together. For all to be identical, there would be no advancement, no creativity, no inspiration. It is in honoring your oneness through thoughtfulness – not the impersonation of another – that allows the race to flourish and evolve.”

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Featured Guest: George Carlin

Here is an excerpt from George Carlin’s book, Last Words, on the subject of individuality. For any of you who haven’t had the opportunity to hear Mr. Carlin’s reflections, keep in mind that his language is colorful. I don’t know about you, but I sure do miss him.

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Pretty, Much

The other day while hiking my usual trail and avoiding the ubiquitous poison oak I realized that, hey, poison oak is kinda pretty. As I admired from afar how the leaves are now starting to change from green to brilliant red it got me thinking about how although it was pretty, it can cause anyone who comes in contact with it a whole lot of irritation. And then of course my mind started churning, as it does, and it came to the topic of physical beauty.

Like it or not, we all – to some extent – judge one another based on our version of physical attractiveness. A lot has been written about our aversion to what we find unattractive, but what about our aversion - or irritation - to what we find too attractive? Yes, it’s there, and we judge people based on that as well. This came glaringly home to me the other day when I realized that I judged someone’s actions by being surprised at their depth. I realized that I had expected them to be more shallow, because well, they’re pretty. I also realized that I’ve had this negative judgment in the past, whereby I’ve assumed that someone with above average looks probably hasn’t suffered nearly as much as the rest of us run-of-the-mill folks. Now how shallow is that?! I’m actually embarrassed to admit such thoughts, but hey, I try to be as transparent as possible for the sake of my own evolution.

We all know that oftentimes “the beautiful people” get in doors that may be shut to others simply because of their looks. But this beauty, or perceived advantage, can be threatening those around them, and it gives rise to the potential of their being ousted from a group because of it. I’ve witnessed this type of situation and it’s so disheartening. Although it might seem like this is mostly a female trait, I know that it can happen with men, because I’ve seen it. I’ve also known women and men pushed out of careers by from not abiding their boss’s advances. They were punished for their attractiveness. You’d think that it wouldn’t happen in this day and age, but it does.

It all boils down to, as many of my previous posts speak of, getting past our outer casings and letting go of our attachment to them. We need to view ourselves first by who we are at a soul level. By releasing the attachment we have to our own looks, we lesson our attachment to the looks of others, and see them for who they really are. Then you open the capacity to better understand if a threat is actually a threat, or merely a judgmental thought.  And let’s face it, looks change, but the soul that comes shining through our eyes is the most beautiful thing anyone can wear. Don’t you think?

Here’s to you, in all of your beautiful glory.

With Love.

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From Over There:

“Do not be attached to the current standards of beauty thrust upon you. For it is an ever-changing social norm and nothing more. It is not based in reality. The reality of your beauty lies within your willingness to see and be seen, to understand and to be understood, to hear and be heard through the perspective of love. Love is the ultimate expression of beauty. Without a loving heart the physical self is like an empty shell waiting to be filled.”

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Featured Guest: Eva Cassidy

This week’s featured guest is the late Eva Cassidy singing What a Wonderful World. To me it reflects the beauty of her spirit that she so graciously shared while here.

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Boys Will Be Boys

As a woman who has raised an only child – a daughter – I’ve mostly focused on ways that girls and women can rise above the issues of an often misogynistic society. This makes sense, considering that I’m a female who has been responsible for the care and development of another female, but more and more I realize that this focus is only half the battle. What about our boys and men? As women – unless you’ve committed to raising a conscious and aware son – we sometimes forget that the reason for this misogynistic view is in part due to society’s restrictions on what is acceptable in male behavior.

I, for one, must admit to telling a man or two to “man up” when angry over what I felt was a lack of responsible, adult-like behavior on their part. And when thinking back to those instances, yes, I still feel that they should have risen to whatever occasion I deemed acceptable, but now I know that there are better ways to express it. We put such unbelievable pressure on the males in our society to protect us, be strong, financially support us, and so on. And as women, we want them to express their often hidden emotions, but how can they when they’re told from an early age that crying or any expression of vulnerability is a sign of weakness? It’s the same as telling our girls to be strong, powerful women, but at the same time to “be nice and polite so as to not be labeled a bitch”. No wonder we’re all so confused!

It all boils down to, as the message states below, connecting to that bigger part of ourselves – our spirit. Our bodies are ever changing, hormonally chaotic vehicles that are here to house us, move us around the planet, help us maintain the proliferation of our species, and – dare I say – nothing more. While we obviously need to take care of them for optimal comfort and pleasure, pushing aside the need to define ourselves by them will help move us out of the outdated and often harmful gender role constraints we’ve imposed on ourselves. At the end of it all, we’re all in this together, really, and our very existence depends on it.

With Love.

PS. Please check out this week’s Featured Guest, an amazingly powerful documentary in the works that will be released sometime in 2014.

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From Over There:

“Your physical natures are defined by gender, but not your spirit. To live in human form is to embrace the capacities that your given physical form has allowed, yet your spirit-selves know no such limits. It is the evolved being who can combine and make useful the human features of the physical with the boundlessness of the spirit. In doing so, one breaks through the societal restrictions and self-imposed human laws toward the ultimate birthright of enlightenment.”

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Featured Guest: The Mask You Live In

A new documentary brought to us by MissRepresentation entitled The Mask You Live In will be exploring the systemic societal problems caused by toxic masculinity.  The director Jennifer Siebel Newsom interviewed men and boys across the country and what she found was jaw-dropping. She found that although men are dying to speak, they are taught to stay silent. They spend their life wearing a mask that they are taught to never remove. See what happens when they take it off. To learn  more, please visit policymic.com.

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Give 'Em What You've Got

The last few posts have been a bit heavy and this week I wanted to lighten things up a bit. When I “asked” for something nice and inspiring the response I received is the message below. While is does call for us to hold some responsibility for how we act in the world, it also definitely explains why. It some of you this will be no surprise. Obviously, if you treat others with kindness you bring the possibility for receiving the same in return. But taking it a step further it’s explained that by virtue of our interconnectedness, when we treat others with kindness we are, in essence, treating ourselves with kindness as well. Hmm, I like that.

Sending you love from over here and enjoying the bounce back.

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From Over There:

“You are all one and all children of the same being. This being is, in turn, is made up of each and every one of you. Whether viewing life through the physical-self or through the self without limitation – the soul-self – knowing who you are is important in understanding your value and effect on all of creation. You ARE that important, each and every one of you. By treating one another with kindness and compassion, you are giving yourself the same gift. Give kindness generously and the rewards will follow you throughout time.”

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Featured Guest: Stevie Wonder

Just because I happen to be on a bit of a Stevie Wonder bender as of late, and because it’s a great song, here’s For Once in My Life. And you have to admit, the extremely out of sync dancers sure add to the fun!

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Cuts Deep

This week’s message covers a topic of forgiveness and it’s unfortunate partner, betrayal. I’s a weighty subject, but important to talk about, and one that I keep encountering as of late in my work with clients. It can be a difficult place to get to, but once it occurs is liberating. Forgiveness does not mean condoning bad behavior, it means letting go of the anger and resentment over an act of betrayal. While forgiving someone benefits them it also, more importantly, benefits us.  Holding onto anger can feel like a fester sore that never heals. It colors the lens that we view the world through and shuts us off from allowing good things to come through.

One thing I’ve noticed when working with clients over the years are the stages that one has to go through in order to get to the place where they can forgive.  It can take time, especially when you’ve felt particularly betrayed by someone. Oftentimes the shock when the incident occurs can leave you feeling like you’re able to cope and move through it with ease, but then the reality of the situation hits and then the anger comes flooding through. Is the anger justified? You bet it is. And it is necessary to allow it in order to move through it. When you’re able to allow yourself time to be in this state and not make yourself wrong for it – really feel it – then it’s easier to get to the other side without staying forever stuck in it.

Another thing that often shows up after an act of betrayal is depression, which is actually anger turned inward. The bummer about depression is that it can take all of the joy out of life. How do you move through? By reaching out. It’s imperative that you find a network of support, whether through friends, family or a professional. When you’re in the midst of hurt it can sometimes feel like it will never end. It’s excruciating. But time and time again I’ve seen the other side of it, those who bravely face it head on, feel the pain, and move toward forgiveness and greater awareness. This message is once again a repost, but such a good one that it’s definitely worth the repeat.

Wishing you all a peaceful heart.

With Love.

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From Over There:

"Betrayal arises from the perpetrator's inability to be truthful. This can happen through fear of consequences, lack of maturity, or through actions that the perpetrator feels to be inappropriate and still continues to act upon. Whatever the cause, it is the rebuilding of trust that creates healing - if both parties are open. The perpetrator must first prove through action that the offensive behavior has stopped, and the receiving individual must be open to change from the other. Patience will be needed as it is through repeated new action by the perpetrator that trust is rebuilt. This new action must come from the perpetrator's own desire for change, and not from the one acted upon.

Many times, the relationship is forever changed, and whether it continues or ceases, much growth can occur. It is openness to this growth that moves both parties forward into a richer awareness of life."

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Featured Guest: International Forgiveness Institute

The International Forgiveness Institute is dedicated to helping people gain knowledge about forgiveness and to use that knowledge for personal, group, and societal renewal.

Since 2002, the IFI has focused almost exclusively on a new and challenging activity—the development of forgiveness education curricula for children in war-torn, impoverished, and/or oppressed areas of the globe. Our classroom research shows that as children learn about forgiveness, their levels of anger go down. Our theory is that such anger reduction in students will help them improve their interpersonal relationships to the point that they can begin to see, as they mature into adults, the best path toward justice. We believe that forgiveness education is one path toward peace. For more information please visit international forgiveness.com. 

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For Trayvon

I had already written and posted this week’s message prior to the verdict being announced regarding George Zimmerman and his role in the death of Trayvon Martin, and since I felt compelled to speak on the subject there will be two posts. As a white woman with light hair, light eyes and a slim build I know I don’t pose a very threatening figure. I know that this has afforded me to, at times, move easily through the world without drawing much attention to myself. I also, try as I might, can’t imagine what it’s like to be black, especially a young black male in our society. And, I know that as much as some of us want to believe that we don’t judge one another by appearance, that’s simply not true. We do judge each other, though hopefully some of us do so with a little conscious awareness.

All of this has reminded me of a few times where I happened to be by myself while encountering another lone individual – a black male. I remember several occasions while in an elevator, climbing stairs, or simply walking down the street, that in virtually every instance was greeted with a very polite response, almost as if they were trying to make sure I felt comfortable in their presence. The more I observed this, the more I started to take notice of the differences between my encounters with white men vs. black men. By and large the men of color were much more polite. Oftentimes, in my encounters with white males I found that they didn’t even acknowledge me. I’m not saying in all instances, but definitely enough to take notice. What this has shown me is that white men, like me, can easily move throughout the world, and don’t really care if they’re noticed, because they don’t have to deal with the same instant reaction to their presence that black men do.

I find it horribly sad that today in our modern world a sector of society can never fully relax. I know as a woman I’ve had this experience, needing to be hyper-vigilant in paying attention to my surroundings to keep myself safe, but the issue of skin color goes much deeper than this. Derogatory assumptions are made solely based on the level of pigment one naturally displays, as if this were a marker of character. I wish so badly that we could evolve and learn to judge each other only on the merits of character alone, and not appearance, though it doesn’t look like that’s happening anytime too soon. It’s simply tragic that a young man is dead because of this.

What can we do until then? Maybe stop, check ourselves and our reactions, and don’t instantly assume? Not always easy in the moment, but staying conscious is a habit and necessary in choosing a more evolved way of thinking. We CAN get better at this. I’ve seen quite a few people who may have been raised to be intolerant of a certain segment of society change their views though experience and open-mindedness.  All it takes is a commitment to move past the fear and limiting beliefs.

Here’s to each of you, all beautiful members of the human race.

With Love.

P.S. Please see the other new post, Sister, Sister, below.

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From Over There:

“Brothers and sisters under the skin, you are all part of the human race. Genetics are part of the physical, not of the soul. The soul has no such boundaries. The genetic blueprint in which one carries into this world concerns the life and lessons while embodied – not before physical birth or after physical death occurs. To understand one’s self on a soul level opens for understanding of other’s beyond their physical presence. It opens to an expanded view of the human race as a whole being, not as racially divided entities.”

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Featured Guest: The National Resource Center for Racial Healing

The National Resource Center for Racial Healing (NRCHR) was created in 1999 as a 501(c) 3 not-for-profit organization. We begin where diversity training and judicial laws end. All the laws that can be written to eradicate racism have been passed or discussed with much debate. Our focus is creating a society that embraces the reality of the oneness of humankind, and the eradication of racism and its many forms that dehumanize or cause strife. Our methods and process help change the hearts of people by creating a safe environment to explore the disease of racial conditioning. Over fifteen hundred (1,500) have been trained by the NRCHR and the results are exceptional. Our processes not only work, but they are applicable to the masses, companies, and communities. To learn more, please visit nrchr.org.

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Sister, Sister

As much as I love being female there’s one aspect of it that has always bothered me deeply, and that’s the cattiness I sometimes see among my gender. The thing is I, for one, don’t believe that this behavior is hardwired into our DNA, but instead is a product of a society bent on separating and disempowering us. For any of you men reading this, please know that this post is in no way male-bashing.  My hope is that it will show why it benefits you as well if women support, and not undermine, one another.

Fortunately and unfortunately the media has an awful lot to do with how our society views things. It affects our train of thought and inspires trends. It can be used to uplift and pull people together, or as reality (dare I say trash) TV shows, can instigate copious amounts of drama and plain old bad behavior. It’s up to us individually to ignore and rise above the trash and support one another. I know this is possible, because I happen to be blessed with knowing stupendously wonderful, kind, thoughtful and respectful women who would never even consider maliciously harming their fellow sister. They recognize that in doing so is an insult to all women, and that it sets up the proliferation of catty, self-serving behavior.

I’m pretty sure that you women reading this post fall into the stupendously-wonderful-kind-thoughtful-respectful category, and my hope is that your being so will act as inspiration to those who haven’t yet found their way there. It’s an awesome responsibility we carry, but hey, we’re women, we can handle it!

With Love.

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From Over There:

“The female is the keeper of creation. It is through this physical proclivity – whether one bears children or not – that the natural instincts toward the care of others is induced. This position holds high responsibility in the well-being of all. It is through the support and respect that the female gender holds for one another that a strong foundation is built for the well-being of the entire race. It is upon this foundation in which the world stands.

When females diminish one another it weakens the foundation and the innate strength of the female species overall. It is through embracing this deep instinct toward care of one another that the female must present support and care to each other. This empowers each individually, and strengthens the foundation on which the entire race relies. It is imperative to the well-being of the entire race and the well-being of the planet as a whole.”

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Featured Guest: Feminine Power

Empowering awakening women to create their very best lives, realize their highest potentials and make their greatest contributions to the world—and to do so from a foundation of profound self-love, support, connection, prosperity and partnership with others who share their values and vision. To learn more, please visit femininepower.com.

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