This week’s post is not about one of my cats. I figured
that yet another cat related post and I’m swiftly heading toward crazy cat lady
status, and I’m not quite ready for that badge of honor yet. Give me a couple
of years or so on that one. So when I
sat down to write this I had something somewhat in mind, but as often occurs “they”
had something else to say.
With Valentine’s Day right around the corner I find it
interesting (or maybe more appropriately, timely) that this week’s message is
about rejection. I mean come on, nobody likes rejection or feeling rejected.
For that matter, I doubt most people like doing the rejecting either. It just
feels icky, and if you let it, can give your confidence a rattling. So in this
world of mixed up people trying to awkwardly connect, how do we avoid it? I’m
not sure that it’s entirely possible to do, but I do think that we can take the
sting down a notch or two.
Rejection comes in all forms – work, dating, social
groups, you name it – and it all hurts. For this newsletter, and in honor of the
rapidly approaching Hallmark card holiday, we’ll look at it from the
perspective of forging new social interactions. The trick is in how you
approach them. Do you have a plan mapped out within 30 seconds of what you want
to happen, or do you just go with the flow when meeting someone new? We’ve all
had those moments when we’ve been instantly smitten, as in “Man that guy/girl
is cuuuuuuute!”, but that usually has absolutely nothing to do with them as a
person. And we haven’t even begun to know what odd idiosyncrasies (we all have
them to varying degrees) lay beneath that gorgeous exterior. Not to mention prospective
new friendships. Do you size people up instantly, or let them reveal themselves
in their own time?
Such delicate creatures we can be. If we take the time to
understand the myriad ways we all approach new interactions, maybe, just maybe
we can be more forgiving and open to connecting, and not so quick to judge
those that don’t answer back.
Happy Valentine’s Day to y’all whether your Valentine be
a spouse, partner, child, or yes, a cat.
With Love.
From Over There:
“Feelings of
rejection come when there is attachment to a particular outcome. If one remains
unattached, one will be more flexible when life presents a different result
than what was expected or desired. To stay unattached is to first ask yourself
why you desire attention from a certain individual. What are the motives behind
the desire? If the desire is to fill a sense of emptiness within, then this
individual will be viewed from a false perspective. This approach ultimately has
potential for both parties to become dissatisfied. If one finds the desired individual genuinely
interesting and like-minded then the potential relationship is approached from
a much improved vantage point. From this more empowered place of attraction one
increases opportunities to connect with individuals of the same mindset, and will
have less attachment to whether the focus of desire reciprocates the intended
connection. It is through this simple intent to create connection – without a preconceived
desired outcome – that opens for more truthful and long-lasting relationships.”
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Featured Guest: Rainier Maria Rilke
This week, one of my favorite quotes by Rainier Maria
Rilke:
“I’m so glad you are here…it helps me realize how beautiful
my world is.”
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