Act, Responsibily

This week I’m pulling from the archives and giving you a truncated version of a previous post. The reason for this is that in doing so it conveys more closely what I want to talk about, being responsible with your energy. What I mean by this is simply taking responsibility for your reaction to having a bad day, or bad extended period, whether from occasional mood swings, dealing with emotional trauma or something more physically related.

I bring this up, because for the past few weeks I’ve had the experience of witnessing a few people who were going through some sort of painful issue and the varying degrees of responsibility they took for how they processed it. On one hand was individual who was very in a bad way, but took full responsibility and acknowledged the effect their turmoil had on those around them. The end result was that everyone rallied support, and this individual took an active role in getting help. They took responsibility – even while in a vulnerable state – for their actions and now is on the path to wellness.

On the other hand, I’ve also witnessed someone who consistently choses to throw their energy around in the form of bad moods and overly dramatic displays of emotion without care of how it affected anyone. To top it off, they’re completely unwilling to see or take responsibility for any of it. It’s really unfair, and quite frankly, draining.

At the end of it all the most we can do is hold ourselves accountable for how we are in the world, be compassionate when someone is having a bad day, and keep interactions with toxic people at a minimum.  

With Love.

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From Over There:

"Worthiness of a desired outcome arises from action coupled with responsibility. When one takes action toward the creation of a desire and full responsibility for its implementation - whether seeking help or completing the full process individually - one moves into a state of worthiness. This includes action without harm, since the act of responsibility carries with it the consideration of others.

Entitlement is the feeling of deservingness without appropriate action or responsibility to outcome. It is in this state that the individual can never be satisfied. It is in this state that respect for others and their needs diminish. It is a state of demanding, not compromise.

  

Working toward a desired outcome with action and responsibility creates a sense accomplishment, self-respect and worthiness for the individual - and it is the way toward greater peace for the whole."

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Featured Guest: Marshall Rosenberg

Nonviolent Communication (NVC) is based on the principles of nonviolence-- the natural state of compassion when no violence is present in the heart. NVC begins by assuming that we are all compassionate by nature and that violent strategies—whether verbal or physical—are learned behaviors taught and supported by the prevailing culture. NVC also assumes that we all share the same, basic human needs, and that each of our actions are a strategy to meet one or more of these needs. People who practice NVC have found greater authenticity in their communication, increased understanding, deepening connection and conflict resolution. To learn more visit cnvc.org.